Fear, Doubt, and Uncertainty… Parenting is Hard!

If you have children, whether it’s 1 child or 10, you know what I mean when I say you can only be sure of one thing- uncertainty. Parenting is hard! “Before I got married, I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories.” – John Wilmot, 2nd Earl of Rochester (1647-1680)

Parenting is the hardest job anyone will ever have. No book or piece of advice will set you on a straight and narrow path to success. Having children is the GREATEST thing that ever happened to me. It also brought the most fear, doubt, and uncertainty in my life. Being afraid of failing as a parent is part of being a parent. But being afraid is how you know you’re not failing!

When I was a young mother of my first child, Jennifer, I developed debilitating headaches. The doctors were convinced I had a brain tumor.

The expert who did my EEG read the results. They were normal. Then the doctor come into the room where I waited. “What has you so worried?” he asked.

I sobbed that I was afraid I wouldn’t be a good enough mother to my precious child.

He responded, “Well of course you’re a good mother!”

I asked, “How do you know?”

He said, “Only a good mother would worry about that!”

You don’t need debilitating headaches to worry about parenthood! In fact, I do not recommend it!

When it comes to children, you lead by example. Showing your kids that you are strong and confident, helps them be strong and confident. Have you ever done something like cuss when you stub your toe and then a week later, your son cusses too? But tell them to clean their room and see if that ever happens!

Kids are like sponges when it comes to what we do and how we act. 

That’s why being a good parent is about taking care of yourself and being the best version of yourself that you can be. Provide the best role model you can.

Bill Ayers once said “Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.” Kids are going to push you to your limit to see where boundaries are. But is that necessarily bad?

Successful Amelia Earhart, Stephen Hawking, and Albert Einstein (just to name a few) all pushed limits way beyond what was expected. Look where it got them!

Imagine– if we empower ourselves, we teach empowerment to our kids. Create a better world by teaching children that their potential is unlimited and they can have any life they desire. What a gift to your children-and to yourself! Don’t you agree?

So, if you want your child to be happy and empowered, and they learn by example, where does that leave you? Take action and free yourself! Especially when parenting feels the hardest.

Everyone deserves a chance at freedom and empowerment, so teach those skills to your child, by example.

Take action and thrive for your happiness today.

We are eager to help you get there.

What do you say?

Love & Miracles from Doc Taylor